Thursday, September 18, 2008

Aloha Friday


An Island Life is hosting Aloha Friday.. I thought it would be fun to participate. All you have to do is answer the question I ask by leaving a comment. Then click over to An Island Life and link up to Aloha Friday with your own question!

An Island Life Question today is: Who knows you better than anyone else?

My Answer: My sister and my husband.



My Question for you is:

Do you have or have you had experience with children picking up bad words or phrases from television? If so PLEASE tell me what you did to make them stop!!!! My 4 year old has picked up the Lord's Name in Vain (my husband and I do not use bad language of any kind) which is said almost everywhere, even on the news. On Disney ect.. Also, other things ahhhhhhhh help!! I've tried giving him new words (nice words) to replace but he doesn't much care for my suggestions! Set aside throwing all our TVs out the window, I don't know what else to do.


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22 comments:

cora said...

I also have my 3 yr old niece, and like ur 4 yrs old, she picks up many words from tv, and she's so fast immitating the words uttered. Like your situation, she won't listen and continue saying the words. We are on the same boat....

Mrs. Brownstone @ XBOX Wife said...

Hi! I really like the look of your blog ~ and the sides give off an island vibe. Perfect for this Aloha Friday!

As far as television and bad words...I've decided that it is near impossible to prevent them from picking up questionable words because almost every channel has a much more lax view on language than the Brownstone family does!!! Our kids are a bit older than yours, but we have set MAJOR television limits. We pretty much have TV turn-off every single day except the weekends. Most of what they watch has been DVR'ed, so we avoid commercial exposure by using the fast forward. Unfortunately, hearing the Lord's name used in vain seems to be commonplace on most shows. If we hear it, we really try not to let the kids watch that particular show anymore.

Good luck in your endeavor!

Blessings!

Anonymous said...

All 3 of my kids have at some time or another taken the Lord's name in vain. I just calmly explain to them that we love Jesus and he likes to use his name with respect, to talk about him or in prayer. Sometimes I have to remind them again but it has never became a real problem. I try not to make it a control issue by using threats or getting upset.

Em Dy said...

I don't have kids myself so my experience is limited. I have a nephew though who thinks that wrestling is cool. Limiting TV time seems like a good idea.

The Woman said...

maybe not from tv but from their friends ugh

Andrea McMann said...

My nephew went through this recently. I don't know where he heard it, but when his parents acted shocked that he said it, he only said it more! He even started calling his kitten "Christ!" It didn't work to try to tell him that it wasn't a nice thing to say, because he heard a priest say it!! Eventually, they helped him learn that it's not the word, but the way it's said that was the problem. Eventually, he'll learn. It just takes time. If all else fails, why not have a pastor or priest talk to him? They might be able to explain it in a way that's acceptable to a four-year-old. Sometimes kids will listen to others when a parent's words go in one ear and out the other!

Amy-Happy Momma said...

We have very strict guidelines for what our family watches on TV. When words are used that should not be,we just say, "Oh my, that is not good to say!" That is hurtful or that is not respectful etc. As far as God's name in vain, I don't think they have watched anything that used His name in vain, but I am sure they will see or hear it at some point. My thought is. We only use each others name when we are talking to each other or about each other and it is no different with God. Some people use God's name disrespectfully, but we know better. :D

Information rather than correction.

Alyson, the 3 P's Mama said...

So far, so good with my 2, 5 and 7 yr olds. The worst things have been smart alecky and they learned those the minute they started school.:)

Tena said...

Yes, my oldest has, and I find just banning the cartoon works great.

Ahola!!

~TAMY 3 Sides of Crazy~ said...

It seems today that kids are 'pushing' the envelope more and more as a means of getting attention or something, but I still use 'old fashioned' methods of discipline like grounding. It seems the more you take away. the better they behave in order to earn it back.

Deb - Mom of 3 Girls said...

We really haven't had too much trouble with this - but we limit the tv they watch. Any time we have heard one of them say something we don't think should be coming out of their mouth, we explain that it's not a word they should use and that's pretty much taken care of it. So far, anyway. Good luck! :)

Kathy said...

Personally I found the best thing to do is ignore it as much as possible. If you give them too much attention for saying it, they'll just want to say it more. Although if I hear my children saying something I don't like, I just simply state, "WE don't say words like THAT".

AmyG said...

I've had this issue before. It's hard to break them. But what I did was, as soon as they said the word, I told them it was a bad word and we don't say it in our house. I said the word, so they would know which word I was referring to. But explained it's not a nice word & I didn't want to hear it again. If they continued to say it, they were put in time out. It took a few days/week, but they eventually stopped.

TheAngelForever said...

We have found that often not making a big deal out of something is the best way to stop it from being used again. My five year old has said a few choice things that were said on a Noggin show. We told him that it was not acceptable. He kept testing and we ignored it. Eventually he stopped.

Good luck!

diana said...

i think it's natural for kids to pick up inappropriate words and phrases. when my kids used such language, i would immediately stop them and make them come up with some other word or phrase. they had to repeat the sentence with the new language. they knew that certain language was not acceptable in our house.

if it became obvious that they didn't want to use other language (repeat offenses), there was bad consequences - like having something taken away from them. good luck.

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Aloha Monkey said...

Uh oh, now you're in trouble. Just kidding. My 5 and 6 year old have a vast sea of different tv shows they watch and occasionally test out newly learned words and phrases. Yes, they even use the Lords name in vain sometimes (they get that from their daddy, not me). I try not to make too big a deal of it because they'll only want to do it more. I basically just pull them aside and tell them that those words are not nice words, and I don't want them saying it any more. When they throw in the old, "But Daddy says it," I remind them that Daddy is an adult and they're not.

Thanks for visiting my blog. I think you're right about couples meeting online not being so unique nowadays, but it's unique that you were open about it.

Have a great weekend.

Heart of Rachel said...

There was a time when my 5-yr old son learned to say Loser because he heard it on one of the kiddie programs on TV. I explained to him what Loser really means and that it's not a kind thing to say. I'm glad he doesn't say it anymore.

Cathi said...

Our grandson has picked up, "Oh my ..." from school and playmates. We are trying hard to encourage him to say gosh or goodness.
Our daughter in law uses a reward system with a treasure chest for good behavior. It could also work in reverse.
Start with a jar or chest with coins to buy something they really really want. Everytime something inappropriate is said, they have to remove however many coins have been decided upon.
Tangible lessons work best.

supermommy said...

We don't use the words "hate" or "stupid" around here. We always just told the girls that they are grown up words and they know they can't say them.

BTW, thanks for stopping by my blog!

Charlie and Jen said...

:)))) lets see i was 4 and i don't even remember the word i said i just remember that for the next 10 years it seemed like i was not allowed to watch commercials. There was no such thing as TiVo then so i had to go out of the room during every commercial and the only show i was allowed to watch commercial free was little house on the prairie. :)) I thought you would appreciate my story sister!!

Channah said...

Luckily, my son isn't talking yet, so I don't have to worry too much about this yet. But I have to learn to watch my own language - I don't want one of his first words to be one he shouldn't ever say!

beth said...

Haha...Jen, you crack me up! I guess you learned, didn't you? Umm....I do not have kids, but one time my niece told her little sister "Oh...you are such a cute little B*t*h". I do not know where she learned that word, but she thought she was being nice...ha. Anyhow, we told her it was not a nice word and if she used it anymore she would be punished. Not sure how well threats would work with Brandon.

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