Thursday, January 22, 2009

Footprint Friday!

Welcome to Footprint Friday! I have decided to host a series every Friday. Our Guest Blogger, Jim from Trails West, will be our contributing author for Footprint Friday. I hope you enjoy his take on 'the family' and what it means in our day and age. Please take a moment to read the Interview with Jim, as well as his article on Raising Children.

Interview with Jim from Trails West

What motivated you to start blogging?

I started blogging because I love to write and express my thoughts and words. I hope that some of the things I write will be a help and an encouragement to someone else.

You write about the family. What is the most important thing about “the family today” that people need to know?

Before government, before the church, before the law, God created the family. Everything in our lives emanates from the family. If the foundation of the family is destroyed then the very glue that holds our culture together is gone.

How long have you been married? How many children do you have?

I have been married 37 years and 5 months. I have 8 children and 14 grandchildren with 2 more on the way.

Anything else we should know about you?

For the past 30 years, my wife and I have had the privilege of serving the Lord full time, in the Philippines and in the States. I am committed to the teaching of a literal 6 day creation, the defense of the authority of the Word of God, and the preservation of the family. There are not many things I am not interested in, which is why I write on such a wide variety of topics.

Raising Kids? There is a Secret!

Raising kids is anything but a piece of cake. It's hard work and even more so if you know the secret. In my last post I said I would share the secret to raising children. As promised the secret is "consistency." The Random House Dictionary of the English Language definesconsistent as "constantly adhering to the same principles, course, form, etc.; holding firmly together." Even the name itself implies that it takes longer than sixty seconds or even sixty months!

We all want our children to consistently behave but in order for that to happen it means that we as parents and adults must be consistent in our own lives and that is more times then not where the real problem lies. Too many blame the the child when in reality the problem is found in the inconsistent lives of one or both parents. If you're reading this you may be ready to go somewhere else but before you do indulge me a little a little longer.

At this point I need to issue a disclaimer. I did not grow up with consistency in my home. As a matter of fact I grew up with an opposing view. The idea of being consistent as an adult never meant much until I was married and the first of 8 kids arrived. As we raised our children my wife daily demonstrated consistency in her words and actions. She also did the same for me which actually meant that at times she was raising 9 children. It was hard for me to be consistent and be what I thought for a while was a "mean parent." Ahhh, but as the years passed I began to see the importance of "constantly adhering to the same principles" as we worked hard at "holding" our family "firmly together." So anything that I have learned about being consistent has come from the love of my life as I have watched her year after year.

There are many philosophies about raising children and the idea of changing a child's attitude, behavior and character in 60 seconds or less is one of those philosophies. There is another philosophy that is found in the Bible. Proverbs 22:6 tells us "Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not depart from it." You may have even heard this verse before or memorized it in Sunday School. There is great confusion today about the way a child should go. As one parent said who I talked to about this subject several years ago, "how can we know that one way is better than another?" There are so many ideas out there that are grounded in a contemporary culture that has lost it's spiritual and moral compass. If these new philosophies worked then we would see test scores going up, decreased violence in school, a return to respect and civility in children and teenagers. What we find is a continued collapse of the family unit, family values and fewer parents who know "the way" that their children should go than any other time in the history of our nation.
There is nothing more exciting than the birth of a baby. I have had the privilege of being present for the birth of all 8, and had the heartbreak of holding one we lost. Each one of them is a unique miracle and all of the dirty diapers, late night feedings and training was worth it all. Please understand that nothing can be a greater blessing than a new son or daughter. Remember though, that that same little blessing can grow up to break your heart as a 15 year old. As a parent you cannot fail; you must not fail. No possession you have has more value than your child or your children.
They are the only eternal things you leave behind when you depart this world.

What I have shared in this entry and the one before it is only a brief introduction to the hardest and most rewarding job in the world; being a parent . Don't give up, there is hope! You can do it! But you must be consistent and "know the way!" ~written by

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A little about me...

It is that time again!!!! I am thinking of attempting to lose weight for the 100 millionth time. haha. This time I know it will work :)

In November of 2007, I gave birth to my second child, a C-Section. Not only did that put me back physically, but I also developed high blood pressure. I am only 29. Talk about discouraging.

I started gaining weight in highschool. Seems to have followed me everywhere. My ultimate goal is to lose 120 lbs but I'll settle for 10 right now. haha.

There is absolutely no reason why I cannot succeed in this weight loss endeavor. I have exercise equipment. I guess that means I have to use it. Also, I am going to attempt the Carbohydrates Addict Diet. I have had some success with this in the past.

So I am thinking, with putting my progress out for the world to see.. it will force me to make the right choices. Let's hope!! Feel free to comment on anything or tell your story. It's always encouraging to hear about others successes. Join me on this weight loss journey...

My Weight Progress: