Thursday, June 25, 2009

Aloha Friday



An Island Life is hosting Aloha Friday.. I thought it would be fun to participate. All you have to do is answer the question I ask by leaving a comment. Then click over to An Island Life and link up to Aloha Friday with your own question!

My Question:
Background: On vacation this week, we were at the beach. My almost 5 year old threw some sand when we were walking in the water..it landed on this 12 year old boy..and his dad was standing by. So the dad looks at my son and tells him not to do it again..and shakes his finger at him...

Ok..my question.. Does it make you mad if someone else tells your child(ren) to stop doing something when you are standing right there??

My Answer:
I HATE it!!! lol Unless, I leave my children in your care.. don't tell them what to do or not do..when i am standing right there!!! GRRR lol Saying that to say.. this father at the beach.. I heard my mouth say.. "I'll take care of it" lol I never say things like that.. it must be my maternal instinct!


21 comments:

Night Owl Mama said...

GOOD for you. If its a stranger I let them know that I'm the MOM!
if its someone I know we'll then I just let my child know that mom agree's IF I do.

that guy should lighten up your on a beach and he's a kid

Pamela Kramer said...

If I'm standing right there and that person doesn't give me the chance to correct my child myself then yes.

Erica said...

I depends on who it is a complete stranger no way, but friend or family member I expect keep my kids in line if I am not paying attention or busy doing something else.

Angela said...

It depends. If it was something like "Please be careful!" I wouldn't be upset. I try not to scold my son in a mean way, so I don't appreciate other people trying to do it for me.

TheAngelForever said...

Yes, it does bother me. However, I have to admit even with a parent standing there I would likely say "please be careful" to a child in that situation.

East Coast Wahine said...

I would've done the same thing you did! Good for you!

Deni said...

My baby is only 1, but if I were standing right there I am sure it would. However - I get sick of parents watching their children do bad things and do nothing about it. I am sorry, but if you are ignoring them, I will speak up. Maybe that's the teacher in me.

When I worked in retail, I can not begin to express how many children I had to have a talking to.

If you can't control your kids or at least attempt to, I will. Sorry!

LuvnLife00 said...

A stranger has no right to fuss at a child if the mom was right there. Now if it was me (the stranger) and someone threw sand on my kid Id say the same thing but only if the parent wasnt near. I guess it depends on what side your standing on.

pam said...

It's the beach! He's five!!
I don't think the father had any place saying anything and the finger waging. Stuff it!!

See, I am a momma bear. I am getting worked up just reading the story. LOL

Drahdrah said...

Unless it's a close family member or friend, I would prefer if the comment was directed at me, and not my child. Although, on occasion, I have felt that when a child acts up, if a stranger tells them to stop (firmly) it might be an effective way to make the child stop a bad behavior.

kiddiescorner said...

Yes I do. That is my spot not someone elses. I would never step in unless someone was in harms way!

AudreyO said...

Believe it or not, I'm not sure how I'd vote on this one. Not all parents discipline their children. Since your a stranger, I have no idea if you are ok with what your child did or not.

I'd probably wait about 10 seconds and if you didn't take charge, I'd let the child know that throwing sand was not ok.

I am Harriet said...

I'm with Pamela. I'd say "excuse me?"

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Auntie E said...

He should of said something to you. But okay let's see...Beach..Sand..Water..Fun..Kids..what do people expect? Sand,air and fun= throw sand,lol. it like when in the water you will get splashed:-)

Kari said...

Yes, it does make me mad. If my children are misbehaving and I don't see it, I do want someone to tell me. But, leave the disciplinary talk to me or my husband.

Happy Friday.

Chris said...

yes most of the time..

blueviolet said...

Yes, that would make me mad. It's never happened but I'd be ticked.

Erin @ Closing Time said...

If I were right there, and they gave me no opportunity to deal with the situation, then I would definitely be upset. If I did not see what happened and my child continued to do it, I would hope they would let me know so I could take care of the issue.

Nina said...

I would not tolerate that and be pretty mad especially if I was right their and wasn't given a chance to say anything myself yet.

Charlotte (Life's a Charm!) said...

i was in a similar situation but reversed. i didn't talk to the other child that wronged my son, or his mom who saw and heard everything. what i did was drag my son away, packed up and left. i remember feeling so mad and so sorry for my child that i have to cut his playtime short because there's a kid there who didn't play nice and his mom wasn't quick enough to react.

i am quite sure that my son will have his turn to play rough. coming from this experience, if another parent even if it's a stranger beats me to 'talking' to my child in a discreet manner that does NOT ridicule, embarrass him or make him cry, i think i'd be okey with it. i will be more concerned that my child didn't cause any serious harm, make sure he apologizes, i'll be apologizing too for what he did and pull him away for not playing nice.

Kailani said...

I would definitely make me upset. At least give me a chance to scold my own kids. :-)

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